Dating our own sign...

topic posted Mon, June 26, 2006 - 4:09 AM by  jesica
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Hey -- I'm new to this and its blowing my mind away! I'm 3x water sign: Sun Scorpio/Moon in Cancer/ Pisces rising. Practically drowning here. lol...I'm dating my first Scorpio guy and its proving to be quite...an experience.

Dating our own is ... like looking into a mirror. Its beckons our own reflection -- but damn, scorpios have a lot of walls to break down! The Scorpio sense of mystery never made sense to me until I dated our kind. And secretive we are, quiet and brooding, with a magnetism thats undeniably...dangerous.

But secrecy isn't getting us anywhere. I'm pretty private myself; two private people make not a openly communicative relationship. And I think I'm nearing the end of my rope. As much as I try to understand him, he's...closed off. And to think, I'm the only chick he ever opens up to (he says)! Wow...Someone tell me how the mind of a scorpio man works! Or anyone who's dated their fellow scorp and how it worked or didnt work out?
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  • Re: Dating our own sign...

    Mon, June 26, 2006 - 10:15 AM
    well...do u know anything else about his moon or asc? venus? something?.....he sounds like he might have a taurus rising or something.....

    They are intense, i have only dated another scorp 2 times, once when i was 17 and he completely BROKE my heart after i gave him my all at the time...and the second didn;t last that long either....

    It's kind of a 50/50 chance i even get along with a scorpio, mainly since i have A LOT of fire and earth in my chart and i need people to be VERY communicative for a friendship/relationship to work...so it depends...but go with your gut girl! tell him straight up "i feel like your not communicating to me enough, im very sensative and i need to know how things might work out with us (or not work out)....?"

    good luck!
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    Mon, June 26, 2006 - 10:25 AM
    "Wow...Someone tell me how the mind of a scorpio man works!" ~~~ I would love some help on this question myself, but then again...being my Aries self, the more time that passes trying to deal with this SHITE, the less I care.
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      Mon, June 26, 2006 - 1:24 PM
      Well, if u want to know how the mind of a scorpio man works...you have to go to the "All you ever wanted to know about Scorpios School of Esoteric Learning" but the problem is that there is a secret pass word to get into the school (never mind grades ) and then a special initiation to deem you worthy of entering the school. Then once you are there, you will be TESTED repeatedly to see if you are TRUTHWORTHY enough to be told the ancient and amazing secrets the scorpio holds. Even if/when you are accepted, any minor infraction on your part will get you kicked out..so do NOT mess up or do ANYTHING to make them distrust you. Once you are finally in, you can look forward to never being able to leave.
      Ha ha...
      Okay I am being sarcastic.
      Let me please just say this OUT LOUD..
      WHY IS IT SOOOOO appealing for men/women to try to "get inside" people who are not willing to open up? I do NOT think this is even about SCORPIOS..this is about people who don't know who to COMMUNICATE...and what is a relationship about more than anything else except that?
      Sorry to sound jaded but I say, yeah, tell him you want more of him to open up but don't always assume, that there is something to necessarilly open up to....sometimes, people that are so "dark, mysterious and um, secretive" are just SHUT DOWN.
      And I am scorpio btw...and no I have never been out with a scorpio man, well except once...he was not very nice...but that's besides the point..I CAN NEVER find scorpio MEN bc it seems they are either hiding or busy being silent and strong.
      Or all the good ones (like here on line..hee hee. are taken or too young or in another state??)
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        Mon, June 26, 2006 - 1:59 PM
        yes i agree kat...it does depend more on the person rather then the signs....i personally tend to get along really well with geminis and leos and they are suposed to be the "worst" for me...but i love that kind of "open, communicative, crazy" energy that goes with them...and i never have a boring conversation with them either.....so, go figure.
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          Mon, June 26, 2006 - 3:29 PM
          Totally agree w/ u Ang (Om my God we are like so alike..hee hee) also another sign I love is/are Sagittarians..love their energy....
          but again, maybe this isn't so much about astrological signs as to what people choose to reveal or not..obviously..I am scorpio who is highly communicative but my ex who was a gemini....was really introverted and took me years to tell me his feelings let alone that he wanted a divorce!!
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          Mon, June 26, 2006 - 4:00 PM
          Coming from a male scorp:
          We (scorpio men) are very secretive and elusive with our feelings. But, I will tell you to NOT push him to open up. This will actually backfire on you. If you think he is defensive now, just wait until he thinks you are demanding something from him. Then you will see just how hurtful he can be. The key word here is PATIENCE. TONS of it. Just when you think you are running out of it, double the amount you have already put in, then multiply that times 3, and you will have enough. Get the drift?

          Let me explain:
          It is not that we scorpio men don't feel, it is actually the opposite. We feel so damn much, and we feel it so damn intensely, that we scare most people away (save other water signs). Scare enough people away throughout your lifetime, and you instinctively learn to hide your emotions. We bottle them up because we are always feeling lonely and unfulfilled (though we will never admit it), and we secretly desire to be liked and understood. But, it is very hard to understand us because, like scorpio women, we are highly complex.

          Have you ever seen an animal that has been beaten and abused? They growl and snarl whenever you get close to them; afraid that they are about to be hurt again. But if you give that animal time and patience, and show them through your ACTIONS over that amount of time that you do not mean any harm, then they will eventually, and very slowly, open up and let you in. It is very similar with a scorpio man. It takes what may seem like a lifetime for us to open up, but once we know for a fact that the woman we are with can be trusted, we suddenly transform. We become an unshakable force that will go through hell, and back, and back, and back again to ensure the livlihood and well-being for the one we love is strong and intact.

          So, try your hardest to understand him without using words. Tip: scorpio men tend to think of words as fickle and meaningless-anybody can say anything, but to actually back those words up with action (or inaction) is rare. Use that scorpio intuition you have to read him, as best you can. And again, give him PATIENCE. If you are willing to give him this, then I believe that in the end, you will be very happy with what you come out with. But this is assuming that he is of the evolved scorpio type, which can be rarer than diamonds.

          For a more in depth description of the scorpio man visit:

          mizian.com.ne.kr/englishwi...Toc6672025

          There is also info on scorpio woman, child, employee and boss.
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            Mon, June 26, 2006 - 5:21 PM
            Well said Jeff, and I hope no one takes this the wrong way...but it's too late to hold back....but what you described below...is that anyone's idea of a fulfilling relationship? Let alone fun, joyous, exchanging, growing, healing, revealing, loving?
            I am sorry but just bc maybe and that's a big maybe, at the end of all of one's patience...you will be *rewarded* with undying loyalty and a transformation...I could not do it.
            And maybe that's the point, I mean to each his own..I am a scorpio..I do NOT reveal everything but damn it, I am honest, and if someone is giving a bit of their heart to me they deserve in return (if I really feel it) to give it back.
            Everyone has been hurt, maybe you are saying and I think I understand this - that scorpios take things in so deeply that they are even more "hurt"....and they literally feel as if they will hurt someone or worse kill someone with their emotions if they let it out.
            Personally? I think the thing that a lot of scorpios fear is themselves and their own emotions....and I can say that bc I am a scorpio.
            Again what good are emotions if you have to wait and wait and wait until finally the keeper of them feels "safe" enough to reveal...what good does that do someone who wanted to hear you say I love you....but bc you are too afraid to say it you wait...and then they give up and leave thinking you don't care...or worse, they die and you never get to tell them that....
            Okay, I am taking this too deep...damn scorpio that I am...
            I need to lighten up!!!!!!!!!!
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            Mon, June 26, 2006 - 7:06 PM
            A TREMENDOUS thanks Jeff...really. As a scorpios tend to understand each other instinctively, we can only go so far. The reason I wanted to understand him as a scorpio man wasn't to manipulate, but to endear compassion. When we have a better sense where the other is coming from, its easier to let down that scorpio sting and not strike. It is easy to hurt someone when we feel hurt and confused ourselves; and the last thing I wanted to do was hurt him the way everyone else might have. You're insight has given me ways to be constructive as opposed to destructive. Its easier to let things go and let people be when we know where they are coming from...and simply repsect the differences.
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              Tue, June 27, 2006 - 4:00 PM
              I think I may have given somewhat of an unintentional impression. I do not mean to say that we scorpios should be pitied, because there are few other things we hate more than that. Its just that too many people write us off without giving us a chance to figure OURSELVES out. With all that complexity to your ownself, how can you say exactly what you are feeling or thinking at any given moment? Its not very easy, trust me. It takes time for us scorps to figure out all of our feelings, and to actually FEEL them before we even begin an attempt to put them into words. That is the true basis for the undeniable necessity for patience in our relationships--time to sort our own minds out.

              I hope I am not repeating myself here (in true pisces rising fashion), but if you force or push anything before it is ready, it is only going to fall apart and fail miserably. This is why scorpios should not seek out one night stands or short-lived relationships. We are simply not geared up for them, though our extremely powerful libidos seem to instinctively drive us into such liasons anyway. And, if a scorp is involved with someone who continually pushes them to go faster than they are willing, then the scorp must learn to let them go. This, of course is the hardest lesson a scorp has to learn--to let go. To let go WITHOUT hatred or resentment towards whatever or whomever they are letting go. Some people simply do not have the patience we require, and this is not a bad thing, just a difference of character.

              We have our entire lives to share our feelings with those we love---why rush? Let's think quality, not quantity (sorry for the overused cliche, but it speaks the truth). Cherish the small things, the big ones will happen in due time. And, by all means, do not let a society with a divorce rate well over 50% define how your relationships with people should progress. Everyone is different (even between scorps), and everyone requires different things, whether or not they know what those things are. Slow it down, people. Slow it down.

              But let me get off my soapbox now, its starting to collapse under all the emotional weight.
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                Wed, June 28, 2006 - 11:28 AM
                Jeff I just have one comment about what you wrote ...specifically the below -
                Beautiful.
                Thank you - that really helped me understand scorpio me better...
                Kat

                This is why scorpios should not seek out one night stands or short-lived relationships. We are simply not geared up for them, though our extremely powerful libidos seem to instinctively drive us into such liasons anyway. And, if a scorp is involved with someone who continually pushes them to go faster than they are willing, then the scorp must learn to let them go. This, of course is the hardest lesson a scorp has to learn--to let go. To let go WITHOUT hatred or resentment towards whatever or whomever they are letting go. Some people simply do not have the patience we require, and this is not a bad thing, just a difference of character.
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                  Wed, June 28, 2006 - 4:01 PM
                  Did you know that dogs and bees can smell fear?
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                    Wed, June 28, 2006 - 5:35 PM
                    I knew that about dogs...not bees...
                    I have heard that people can sense fear...well that's probably pretty obvious (duhhh Kat) but what I mean is I was recently in a situation where I quit this really bad waitressing job and had to pick up the paycheck..which I did not want to do......but I needed the money so I went in...my stomach dropped and I was ready to freak anticipating when the boss would come out...but I got a hold of myself and said "Kat, people can smell feel or er...feel it..just like dogs..don't be afraid!"
                    So I got my s**t together and what happend?
                    Nothing bc the boss never came out - gave my paycheck to a waitress who passed it onto me..ha ha ha.
            • Re: Dating our own sign...

              Fri, March 27, 2009 - 12:08 PM
              I'm a Taurus with a Scorpio ascendant and other strong scorpio influences. I dated a Scorpio girl and found myself in the complete opposite situation as yours, jesica. I was baffled at all the things she opened up about – so I actually had to withdraw to mull those things over.
              In the beginning, it was indeed as if we were holding a mirror up to each other (so we both taught each other a lot about ourselves), but the more we communicated, the more our differences came out. I'm still not sure if they were enough to break up over, but I feel sometimes communication can cause issues that weren't there before (especially if you look for a hidden meaning or intention behind what the other person is saying). I'd say: go with your feelings.
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      Mon, June 26, 2006 - 3:36 PM
      The mind of a Scorpio man can be very simpe to comprehend -- and at tmes it can be simply maddening. Take your chances -- but it can be a fun ride!!
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    Tue, July 4, 2006 - 3:44 PM
    I'm a Scorpio/Snake and I happen to big on communication which for some reason is not Scorpio like which leads me to believe it's the Snake side of me that is. I love the intensity of being with another Scorpio, but each time it scared both away. The intensity and the fact I'm open so I don't think all Scorpio's are not open, just gotta find the right one with the same ideals as you.

    Andre'
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      Thu, July 6, 2006 - 5:33 PM
      I agree... I am open now. But, when I was younger, hell no. I was the shyest lil kid you ever seen. It took me forever to finally open up and learn to accept myself as is.
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        Thu, August 10, 2006 - 4:46 PM
        Hey, Jesica, just wondering how things are turning out with your scorp mate. Haven't seen a post in a while, so that could mean really great... or really bad. Personally, I hope its the former.

        Holla.
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    Mon, August 14, 2006 - 12:24 PM
    so, i currently found one of my soul mates a few weeks ago and he is a scorp!!! i can't believe im dating and with another scorpio right now, but so far its been amazing...and our sex is the best ever!!!!!!! ever.

    So, I think his Sag moon and my Aries moon work really well together...and he also has a cancer rising and so he is very friendly to the "eye" and things have just been plain magical..Communication is the KEY and honesty (even brutally) is also another component to it working out......even though we spend 5-6 nights together striaght (yes, thats only a handful of nights alone since we met almost 3 weeks ago) we still get enough lone time and that is also important.......:)
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    Mon, May 21, 2007 - 4:11 PM
    geezzz...all this talk about scorp with scorp is making want to find one! LOL :)
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      Sun, August 26, 2007 - 10:53 AM
      Hi Jessica,
      Scorpio sun/aries moon/pisces rising here. I have dated two scorpio men in my life. My first love and my last love which would be the man in my life now. Scorpio/Scorpio is an all or nothing type of relationship which can only mean it will be Heaven or Hell. Even the heaven ones take a little time but if it's hell, you should know right now. My first one was hell. We played vindictive games, provoked jealousy in each other...it was a love/hate relationship, a struggle for posession and power over each other but the bond was there and the passion was intense.

      The man in my life now is the extreme opposite. We can look into each others eyes for hours and go to any plane in the universe. We are open and honest with each other, obsessed with each other when we are together and when we are not. The communication is awesome. I feel like I have known him all my life and he feels the same about me. We finish each others sentences. Think about the same things when we are apart and discuss them with passion. We have both been through the same things in life. We both know who we are, who we are not and what we want. We both want the same things. The uninion is incredible, we both know that we are a half of a whole soul. I'll tell you why this is so great....

      It's because in a Scorpio/Scorpio relationship there has to be balance(and so with all relationships) and to have balance you both have to be at peace with yourselves. It's all about evolvment. It's about both of you rising from the ashes like the phoenix and soaring like the eagle. As you know, we Scorps have been through a lot in life. We walk through the darkness to get to the light. Walk through hell to get to heaven. We constantly destruct and transform. When two Scorpios have been through everything that they are meant to go through, transform, find peace within themselves and evolve, there is so much love and trust the union is one of an undenyable truth, loyalty, passion, depth, security...a complete binding of the soul.

      Comminucate these things to him. Scorpio men want a relationship like this. :)

      Bobbi :)
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    Tue, February 5, 2008 - 2:54 PM
    I am a November Scorpio. I grew up with my October Scorpio man (a triple Scorpio) We were born within 2 weeks of each and have been together since we were children(we are in our 30's now)
    I have attempted to leave the relationship numerous times due to his insane possessiveness and incredible jealousy--but he goes berserk. He says things like I am his "counterpart" and the "only woman in the universe" for him, blah blah...He knows astrology quite well btw.
    Parting from him, or rather attempting to, is severing an intense brother-sister best friend link. He totally freaks out. I want out of this connection because in all this time he has never committed to me--and sleeps around relentlessly. Yet will have a hissy-fit when I date someone else.
    Having the same qualities creates conflicts for us all the time. He wants me to submit to him, I will not. I am super stubborn, and he is super persistent and determined. In all this time I have felt our qualities bleed into each other, like we share one soul.
    When I try to get away, he overpowers me and fights me until I am exhausted. However, I have the upper hand now.
    I feel at times this connection can be dangerous. I know a long list of many Scorpio couples where all the destruction and death energy came out, and at times I fear we may become one of them. Two Scorps must be very evolved not to bring out the darkness in each other.
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      Fri, August 8, 2008 - 12:24 PM
      WOW! I just came back here after all this time. I didn't really get into posting here on Tribe much until lately--when the fellow Scorp that I wrote about and I broke up!! It was so wild to read what I wrote about us in Feb.

      I did manage to finally end the relationship. He is still holding on. He oscillates from being really freaky intense and trying to reconnect to me (I won't let him) Then I sometimes I hear nothing from him for a little while. But I want nothing to do with him. I shove him away as hard as I can while he keeps telling me he loves me...If he really loved me, he wouldn't be running around with other women. That is my opinion, but maybe in his complicated mind he sees things differently...Still irrelevent at this point.

      So only destruction no death...unless you mean symbolic death... (;

      Good Luck to all Scorpio-Scorpio couples out there because I think it can work out very well if both are evolved.

      Many Many Blessings to Everyone,
      Celtic Angel
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    Wed, February 6, 2008 - 9:36 AM
    the sex between 2 scorps no matter when they were born is almost always very hot and intense and complimentary ..

    get it while you can !@
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      Thu, February 7, 2008 - 7:52 PM
      Geez, there's a lot of triple Scorps suprisingly. I just met a woman last week who's a triple Scorp....very peppy and she wanted to hang out with me. I think she was trying to hit on me though because she made some sort of comment to which I pretended not to hear.
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    Fri, February 29, 2008 - 11:03 AM
    You two should trust each other, I know it is hard for a scorpio to thrust easily. One of you should open up.

    My relationship with a scorpio was HOT. It lasted for 2 yrs then he had to move, I dated another scorpio after a year later for about 6 months then I had to move to another state! sad i know...

    well, I LOVE the mystery but it can be tough when it comes to . My boys wanted everything to be up front, which is the way i was. The more I openned up the more he openned up and trusted me. I would understand him without him saying much.

    What drove me crazy was his tendency to get very jealous. When I talked to any guy, he would hold my hand/hug and make it known that we were together- it was super sweet but sometimes I felt alittle controlled.

    I had super fun and spontaneous! Its hard to crack the shell of these scorpios but once you get to their head and hearts, they are such sweethearts.

    I am a pisces and I dated a pisces man once and it was DULL! Even though it was very romantic (all the time), there was no adventure! So maybe dating your own sign isnt such a good idea. good luck hun!
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      Fri, February 29, 2008 - 3:14 PM
      you oughta try a Pisces with a Scorpio Rising conjunct Pluto in Scorpio LOL we have radical extremist intensity mixed with passionate watery romanticism, best of both worlds hahaha
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    Fri, March 7, 2008 - 12:52 PM
    Hello all. This is my first post here.

    About the "mind of the the male scorpio" not wanted to communicate, I'll offer my take. It's a similar but view to Jeff. My advice is make them feel safe. Let he know you want the whole enchilada and that you know what that means. To let you know where I'm coming from, when I show the full force of my feelings most people aren't sundered under the eldritch might of my pathos. They are just annoyed. Just seeing a lover after while of being apart is enough to make me want a long kiss... every time. When we take someone to bed for the night and they are mopey, I really want to know if there is or isn't anything I can do for them ...every time. When I'm curling up with someone to watch a movie, I want to being touching them relatively intimately, thigh, face, top of breast etc ... every time. Whenever someone states an interesting opinion, I want to dig in and discuss it seriously ... every time. For most people that gets old. Gets old quick. Having a feeling that big annoy someone you care about stings so you just don't set yourself up for that. I've dated people who though they want to be the object of such intense love and desire, but it quickly turned them feeling like I'm demanding to much energy. I've had friends who really liked the sophistication I being to conversation, but feel attacked when I analyze everything they say. All of this hasn't left me socially traumatized. It just means that have become more passive in my connections. I tell people what I'm like, and let them bite off whatever they think they can chew.
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    Thu, August 7, 2008 - 1:24 PM
    I have loved and lost a Scorpio .. and I would do it all again if given the choice AND I would get back with him in an instant if he would let me. I encourage you.. it can be heavenly.. just TRY to control the stingers ;)
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      Fri, October 31, 2008 - 2:51 AM
      i have to say my biggest mistake was breaking up with my ex 5 months back. everywhere i moved, felt right and i was so sure that i would make it, but apparently all the moving only weared me down. all the moves weren't smart, fell off the train-track in other words. While her on the other hand, everything didn't feel right anymore though she was still on the right track. so last month, we got back together and we're gonna keep it that way. even if the family doesn't like it. i called it off but it was in the heat of the argument. and i said that if i ever leave her, i wouldn't regret a thing. though i did, and came back for her even if she didn't want to hear me apologize. since we've been together, we've been taking care of ourselves better. our families hate our other halves but we don't care anymore.

      "you don't really know what you got until it's gone" - Where'd ya go by Fort Minor
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    Tue, September 30, 2008 - 4:18 AM
    best scorpio dating days

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    Fri, October 3, 2008 - 7:01 AM
    I had one relationship only of several mine with a Scorpio guy...
    I will tell you it was understanding beyond words .. we just knew anything of each other ..
    so Stop of talking about secrecies between Scorpios here !!
    There are no secrecies between two Scorps..even if one of them wants,the second knows all anyway .. just feels ..
    at least I was feeling him,and he was feeling me



    Adriana*
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      Fri, January 2, 2009 - 12:37 AM
      Don't do it it'll make you crazy lol,believe me lol,at least that my experience lol,although s e x might be perfect match lol other then that lol hello lol
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    Wed, January 21, 2009 - 4:12 PM
    My advice is listen to what Jeff says. Give up your identity and your life. Like Chris Rock once said: Fuck your hopes, fuck your dreams. Now go out there and try to make that MF happy.... (But guess what - you can´t make him happy, cuz you´re not his first choice...)
    Source: Been persued and dumped by one of the MF:s.
    Persued because I´m beutiful, dumped because I´m smart... No, that´s a lie. Persued cuz I´m a woman and dumped because I´m crazy.

    Now, who wants to join my new blog CapsAgainstBugs?

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