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As the title reads, how do you go about that? I'm apparently their type, and in their mind, I should be their ideal guy.. but doesn't feel so (think "everything you want" by vertical horizon). My idea is to be apart for awhile so that she can miss me (college forced us to be near each other for over 2 years... every day...) but my friends thinks I should just go ahead and kiss her and see what happens. I think the kiss idea sounds fun, but very stupid because she's been giving me hints I shouldn't "push my boundaries" via physical contact (though she doesn't seem to mind when she's not pissed off...). How do we go about touching the fortified scorpio's heart?
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Re: Sparking attraction in a female Scorpio
Fri, April 4, 2008 - 8:05 AMwear a lot of black and red ... the colors that all or most scorpios are cosmically attuned to ... and be like a pisces I guess ?
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also in my experience, scorpio women love alcohol ...love to drink ... bust out some good red wine ... a nice zinfandel for example ... -
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Fri, April 4, 2008 - 10:33 PMwhat does it mean to be like pisces exactly...? I wonder tho if it's even worth going with what she says since she's pretty solid on the whole "not interested in me" deal even tho I'm her "ideal type" when she thinks about it.. but doesn't see it in person... like, wtf.?
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Tue, April 8, 2008 - 4:08 PMIf you've been seeing her for 2 years and she hasn't got you in bed yet, I don't think a kiss would be a good idea....Moving on would probably be the best bet. :(
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Tue, April 8, 2008 - 4:11 PM"also in my experience, scorpio women love alcohol ...love to drink ... bust out some good red wine ... a nice zinfandel for example" ...
Oh yeah...Well, I'm a whisky girl if I drink at all and if I were to do drugs it would be cocaine, marijuana numbs the sex drive and decreses the energy level... *smile* and also it makes you munch and gain weight... -
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Tue, April 8, 2008 - 7:33 PMBobbi , depends on which weed you're smoking and depends on the person ... for some, weed increases libido and staying power and intensity of orgasm ... cocaine is anything but sexy to me ... eww .
And the munching thing is a matter of discipline ... most regular smokers are way beyond letting themselves do that.. amateurs munch at first impulse ... -
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Wed, April 9, 2008 - 3:44 PMi am a a bit an alchocol lover my self, and know that im no good when i drink too much, -
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Wed, April 9, 2008 - 4:13 PMyeah Ana, there's nothing like an intense person, whether he/she be scorpio or not when they've had too much alcohol .... I think it turns people into cavemen/cavewomen ..... me tarzan, you jane .......................... -
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Wed, April 9, 2008 - 4:26 PMha,ha its like a pure animal nature, dont let your reason gets in a way from having a good time -
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Wed, April 9, 2008 - 4:34 PMyeah -
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Wed, April 9, 2008 - 4:43 PMwell i go back to my brandy now but am sober enough t o see your changed your face again...dont be mad,kiddind, i know .. t o live is to change -
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Wed, April 9, 2008 - 6:33 PM
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Re: Sparking attraction in a female Scorpio
Wed, April 9, 2008 - 7:21 PMThanks for all the feedback; just some clarification; we haven't been going out for 2 years, just knew each other for that long.. only became friends about 7 months ago, and fell hopelessly in love 4 months ago. The situation's gotten so complicated actually.. we're virtually very emotionally intimate, as in there's nothing we hesitate to say to one another. I even went as far as to ask her if I'm even her type and she answered me as such "i should like you, but I don't know why I don't... blah blah".
I'm probably just asking too much for more physical intimacy at this point... but she doesn't exactly tell me to give up on her, but at the same time, doesn't like the idea of pushing physical boundaries. She asking for too much? -
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Thu, April 10, 2008 - 1:46 AM"i should like you, but I don't know why I don't... blah blah".
Is it possible that because you started as friends and stay friends for all this time she is simply seeing you as a friend. Maybe is she hesitating about you couse you are too accessible,approachable to her, and sence youre say each other everthing, there is no more mystery part . Because i cant tell that for sure about her , but scorpio woman tend to fall on a guy who is a bit a mystery, or unreachable, or someone who is hard to figure out. Couse they like intrigue. -
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Thu, April 10, 2008 - 3:40 AMAnd they like a chanllenge too -
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Thu, April 10, 2008 - 4:27 PMHmm, that makes sense... We understand each other way too easily it seems since we were forced together for too long... and as for challenge... does "being difficult" count? lol. Iunno, it's hard to be mysterious when we can read each other's minds about some stuff. We get teased about being a couple (which stings a bit, btw) because we bicker like one, and we know each other like one. Maybe the upcoming summer would change things...
PS: Does it help if people, including herself see/think that I changed her life for the better? Apparently, I had that kind of an effect on her (though I refuse to believe what they all say... yeah.. I'm THAT stubborn). -
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Re: Sparking attraction in a female Scorpio
Fri, April 11, 2008 - 7:01 AMYou being difficult can be a challenge for her. But the key issue here is to see if she has romantic interes in you, does she feel chemistry between you.
Couse, you being difficult can be intresting to her just because she has interes in human psychology in generall and needs to know how the people “work”, but it can also be a challenge for her to study you as her potentional boyfriend. So, I , cant know how does she sees you, that its hard to figure out from a letter.
“Does it help if people, including herself see/think that I changed her life for the better?”
Yes it does help. She is probably very fond of you, and you are important to her . But I cant say exactly how this girl is. Its possible that one day she does realize she wants something romantic with you. Maybe you should test her a bit, you know, to see how she feels..You can take one step back from her, just a little I mean, but in the way she does notice it , and than see how will she react.
But, of course this is just an idea, don’t do it if it opposes to your nature, or you don’t feel its right. -
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Fri, April 11, 2008 - 8:16 AMI'm actually starting to realize I have some feelings of being trapped... She pushes me away, especially in the physical intimacy aspect when things aren't going too well.. and when I start to distance myself, she tends to start getting depressed, and other people see it as well (though I always tried to assume it's something else.. too much ego on my part if I think that I caused her depression). She does notice it, and she does react... unfortunately, it feels as if she just wants to keep me near, but not any closer than that... Ah well, I'll try my best.
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Fri, April 11, 2008 - 8:48 AMWell, i shared all of "wisdom" i have regading this case, I dont think i should guees any more here. I am sure she likes you, im just not sure on what level. All i can say now is good luck , hope the thing works out your way -
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Re: Sparking attraction in a female Scorpio
Mon, April 14, 2008 - 1:37 PMSet up a fun situation...disappear for a few days, when
she gets a little bummed out , tell her you were off exploring...
she'll be curious, and say it was doing research, then go to the car,
get a box of picnic stuff...like a bottle of zinfandel ( see the above post )
tho take in about 4 bottles of wine... some different cheeses and stuff...
have your own private wine tasting party / picnic then after a bottle,
or two, start hand feeding a cracker and see how she is about spatial proximity,
then jump on her ( just kidding )...make it fun, and after disappearing for
a few days she'll start associating you with fun times
Of course if ANA was around forget the cheese, go straight to the brandy -
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Mon, April 14, 2008 - 3:58 PMGee, Sol, you talk as if you know me. I have to admit im a bit flattered here
Salutes from "the brandy girl"
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Fri, April 18, 2008 - 3:56 PMpicnics are a lot of fun, unless theres ants and bees,
tho a picnic can be indoors as well
anything with food and easy times, such as a long lunch...I rarely go to dinner with a woman because there is way too much stress and people lie a lot, because they are trying too hard to make a good impression,..not always of course so take it as you see it...I was a waiter during my times when i worked with horses because its a good way to meet the waitresses and it had its fun moments, tho people seemed to be trying too hard to have a good time and make an impression...
Ana, it would be fun to have a picnic with you ,
maybe in some other life
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Fri, April 18, 2008 - 5:03 PMThank you Sol,
It would be nice to to have picnic with you too.
On a beautiful lawn, while the horses running around
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Re: Sparking attraction in a female Scorpio
Thu, April 24, 2008 - 6:25 AMHey all,
Once again, thanks for all the support and wisdom that you have bestowed upon me. It helped quite greatly. Due to some unforseen circumstance and events, we suddenly became real close to the point that she's suddenly wondering if I'll still be this nice when we do become a couple. We've been seeing each other quite a few times during summer break from school and she seems to want to spend time with me (too bad I'm usually working >__<). I know we scorpios are the jealous types and it becomes more apparent for me when she ends up spending time with our other friends (friends that I know for a fact that they have a crush on her). While I openly say that I wanna spend time with her, and hint at jealousy (she seems to pick it up quickly enough), is it really ok to have some jealous feelings? I don't act on the jealous impulses but I still feel them... should I even try to get the jealous tendencies fixed or is it hopeless for scorpios?
PS: I guess scorpios really do flirt almost anywhere =P -
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Re: Sparking attraction in a female Scorpio
Thu, April 24, 2008 - 11:44 AMKeep her away from your friends...;) -
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Thu, April 24, 2008 - 10:05 PMif you have to keep her away, they're not your friends. -
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Sun, April 27, 2008 - 5:17 PMthanks guys; appreciate it, really.
I've decided to put some distance between us for awhile just so I can sort things out (and so can she). She's against the idea initially, but says she still supports me if that's what I really wanna do (how can I not want a girl like her to be my gf?). We work so well together.. but I think i'm just afraid of losing her or something... It's painful to be "apart" so far but I think it needs to be done... as in, I need to sort out whether i really am in love with her or i just want her cuz i can't have her... and as for her.. she's starting to feel for me, but she tells me that it might be just the attention i give her...
i want it to be about 3 weeks... but i'm having trouble just with 1 day so far... ARGH...
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Sun, April 27, 2008 - 5:56 PMAhhhh, my bf and I went through this...the anticipation, the absense, the ecstacy...the passion...awesome! ;) -
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Tue, April 29, 2008 - 8:15 AMyay... so much for that plan... out the window it goes... so impractical... she's quite happy when I told her I couldn't go through with it (though I'm still going to try to keep busy so I don't end up being there all the time).. I learned a few things from her though... she apparently thinks she can like me and isn't opposed to the idea of being a couple... but she feels that it would be very unfair to me if she does that cuz she doesn't love me (she seems to know I love her, though I never said I did). She doesn't wanna get into a relationship cuz she knows it'll be for a long time (scorpio trait for both of us?) and if it's loveless, she worries that it'll be hurting me in the end.
I end up fallng for her more and more... she really is the girl of my dreams...
So close... yet so far... it's like finding the most beautiful rare gift that costs 10$, but they only take cash, and when you find the nearest bank machine you realize you only have $ 19.95 in ur account and it only gives out in denominations of $20...
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Re: Sparking attraction in a female Scorpio
Mon, May 19, 2008 - 1:36 AMWhy dont you just go for broke and start flirting with her. Tell her to meet you in some secluded spot for an hot torrid rendezvous. Better make sure you got the mad skillz for makin love. You have to blow her mind. hehe blow
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Mon, May 19, 2008 - 10:02 PMWell... that's that... I've given up on this gal... It's time my brain gets back on the driver's seat.... no matter what, it's not gonna get anywhere... thanks to all for the support you've shown this whole time. -
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Thu, May 29, 2008 - 8:49 PMActually, that's sort of a lie... I really don't wanna give up... but isn't it just pathetic if I keep pursuing a girl who told me that she doesn't think I should pursue her anymore since I'm wasting my time and money on her and she doesn't think her feelings will change anytime soon. Although, we were getting along before I left her alone for about two weeks (I was busy), she suddenly had a huge turnaround when I saw her again....
So far tho, my mind tells me to give up, but my heart is adamant on not giving up ever(yay scorpio passions). -
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Re: Sparking attraction in a female Scorpio
Sun, June 1, 2008 - 2:28 PMHmm why does this sound familar (lol). She is just being protective of hers and your own feelings. From what you have said, she seems to like you a lot as well, but she is afraid of letting herself to fall in love and develop an intimate relationship with you. You have to give her the reassurance that it's okay to try and open up her feelings more towards you. Scorpio women love it when their partners are jealous...weird huh? Dont' overdo it though or it'll backfire on yourself. Make her realise that she wants you as much as you want her. Do whatever you can and good luck! -
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Sun, June 8, 2008 - 10:48 PMWhy dont you try changing your game and start acting like you dont wanna get with her any more. show no attraction towards her. Screw other chicks see how she responds to that tell her how you have developed feelings toward another woman. You gotta back off maybe... let her miss you . trip her out that way and see what happens absence makes the heart grow fonder or atleast make up their mind
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Re: Sparking attraction in a female Scorpio
Wed, September 24, 2008 - 6:11 AMYes,I love red and black,I am attuned with them,
still finding all colors may be sexy,but in red or black I feel myself a queen vampire...LOL
and I love such dreaming guys like Pisces ,yes,and red wine would do its best on the
date I will make ...
dam !!
but I need to oppose here some fellas telling you that it wont do if for 2 years you had not kissed your Scorpa girl,then u will have no chances already ---- its a bullshit !!
I was in love with one Pisces guy for 2 years !!
Never had been kissed,I never kissed ...the circumstances were such ,we could not go on with our love ..
so we were meeting each other on a daily basis in University,
no kisses at all,but he was suffering becoz of me and I was just loving him by heart ..
So ,Zero...
Just dare ,dear !!
Approach to your love,
and tell her ,you are in love,she will appreciate that ,u`ll see ,
and kiss her ,u will get the hottest kiss ever back !! :)
All best wishes from my heart straight to yours
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Re: Sparking attraction in a female Scorpio
Mon, November 10, 2008 - 1:19 PMThanks for the encouragement, I do have lots of hope.. but i think i'm learning to temper my emotions for now (since I need to focus on school and also don't like banging my head against the wall with no result). So far, we've seperated into two different sections of the school and have heavily conflicting schedules. I have to make efforts to see her (which i did recently) and we seem to get along real well. We keep isolating everyone again when we do come together (in our own little world.. to the point that we ignore everyone else in our interactions). She seems to be attracting even more guys and there's alot more of them around her... my slight insecurities tell me to worry but in the end i know better. Our birthdays are one day after another so ended up doin karaoke with everyone. Noticed that she avoided me the whole time, and would sit near the other guys that has a thing for her, even going as far as to lean her head on their shoulder (made me a little sad and jealous, but meh, i got over it). But when I took her out to give her my share to pay for the booze, she freaked out cuz she thought I was going (still lost on that... really weird reaction). I had to tell her right away that I was just giving her the money before I forget (was drinking heavily). We had our little flirt sessions again (apparently, it appears to the others she's mad at me when we do that), but for some reason, we had our little "understanding" that we're just playing around with each other). Gave her a big hug, before we parted ways... Unfortunately, I still don't think we're "in love".. it really feels like its a one way thing...
Ah well... I'm really daring when i need to be, so if the time's right, I think i'd go for it...
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